Notes to Self

Over the last few months, I’ve compiled a list of “notes to self” in my phone while sitting on the subway. I wrote these reminders for my own sanity. They help me calm down when I feel a spiral of self-loathing coming on. This list isn’t always pretty, but it’s grounded in a reality that I’ve learned to accept. Call them mantras. Call them affirmations. Call them maybe.

  1. I don’t have to be constantly working on something. I can just be.
  2. I can’t “catch up over coffee” with everyone I want to “catch up over coffee” with. And that’s OK.
  3. Thongs are not necessary. The strangers behind me can deal with my panty-line.
  4. Time is finite.
  5. Energy is finite.
  6. Time and energy should be budgeted like finances.
  7. It’s impossible to be a good friend to everyone.
  8. Much to my chagrin, I’m a human being…not a machine.
  9. I can do anything, but I can’t do everything. (OK, I stole this one from Pinterest)
  10. I don’t have to acknowledge every text or phone call I receive.
  11. I can wait as long as I need to before I reply to an email, if I even reply at all (Shout out to Melissa Febos‘s brilliant essay on this topic).
  12. Focusing on the important people in my life helps me figure out whose texts/phone calls/emails to prioritize.
  13. I don’t have to accept every invitation.
  14. “No” is a complete sentence.
  15. No.
  16. No!
  17. 24 hours in a day is more than enough time – if my priorities are in line.
  18. I have complete control over my reactions.
  19. I don’t have to react to everything.
  20. I look and feel ridiculous when I overreact.
  21. Trying to make up for lost time is impossible. No matter how many Improv, Spanish, and writing classes I’m taking whilst simultaneously juggling a full time job, my blog, and maintaining my sanity – I’ll never regain those 12 years I voluntarily gave to the bar scene.
  22. It’s not just one day at a time; it’s one thing at a time.
  23. I need to get over my obsession with time.
  24. As painful and sad as it is, sometimes friends just grow apart.
  25. When I don’t prioritize rest and mental health, I’m exhausting to be around.
  26. Weekly therapy is essential.
  27. Sometimes I actually thrive when I settle into my comfort zones.
  28. Personal growth is great.
  29. Accepting myself for who I am is even better.
  30. Blog posts don’t always need a witty ending.

Tawny Lara is the founder of SobrieTea Party. She writes about being sober in New York City and hosts sober socializing events.

Photographer: Nonlinear Knitting

Photo Location: Jersey City, New Jersey


3 thoughts on “Notes to Self

  1. JoAnna

    These are exactly what I’ve been needing. I really love this one: Sometimes I actually thrive when I settle into my comfort zones. I stepped outside my comfort zone today. Tomorrow, I’m staying home.

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