Over the last few months, I’ve compiled a list of “notes to self” in my phone while sitting on the subway. I wrote these reminders for my own sanity. They help me calm down when I feel a spiral of self-loathing coming on. This list isn’t always pretty, but it’s grounded in a reality that I’ve learned to accept. Call them mantras. Call them affirmations. Call them maybe.
- I don’t have to be constantly working on something. I can just be.
- I can’t “catch up over coffee” with everyone I want to “catch up over coffee” with. And that’s OK.
- Thongs are not necessary. The strangers behind me can deal with my panty-line.
- Time is finite.
- Energy is finite.
- Time and energy should be budgeted like finances.
- It’s impossible to be a good friend to everyone.
- Much to my chagrin, I’m a human being…not a machine.
- I can do anything, but I can’t do everything. (OK, I stole this one from Pinterest)
- I don’t have to acknowledge every text or phone call I receive.
- I can wait as long as I need to before I reply to an email, if I even reply at all (Shout out to Melissa Febos‘s brilliant essay on this topic).
- Focusing on the important people in my life helps me figure out whose texts/phone calls/emails to prioritize.
- I don’t have to accept every invitation.
- “No” is a complete sentence.
- 24 hours in a day is more than enough time – if my priorities are in line.
- I have complete control over my reactions.
- I don’t have to react to everything.
- I look and feel ridiculous when I overreact.
- Trying to make up for lost time is impossible. No matter how many Improv, Spanish, and writing classes I’m taking whilst simultaneously juggling a full time job, my blog, and
maintaining my sanity – I’ll never regain those 12 years I voluntarily gave to the bar scene.
- It’s not just one day at a time; it’s one thing at a time.
- I need to get over my obsession with time.
- As painful and sad as it is, sometimes friends just grow apart.
- When I don’t prioritize rest and mental health, I’m exhausting to be around.
- Weekly therapy is essential.
- Sometimes I actually thrive when I settle into my comfort zones.
- Personal growth is great.
- Accepting myself for who I am is even better.
- Blog posts don’t always need a witty ending.
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Photo Location: Jersey City, New Jersey